Imagine More
My friend Cristian inspired me and this morning I actually did it! I cancelled my cable. I confess that as I dialed Time Warner, I was a little nervous. I was about to give up my ability to come home, click a button and escape after a challenging day. There would be no more channel surfing to avoid doing my bookkeeping. And what will I do when I’ve had enough of real life and need… {Read More}
The Red Tent
What if our daughters were all taught of the sacred nature of their sexuality in the presence of high priestesses who carry the grace of maturity? What if our sons were taught by women and men who understand the nature of the young male, teaching him to be more responsible for his own passions as well as holding the female in the light of reverence? There has been no education about these
… {Read More} My Journey to Celibacy
I was 17, about to wrap up my peripatetic high school career—five high schools, four towns, three states—and getting ready, finally, for liberation via graduation. I planned to celebrate by traveling west to California for a couple months of geographic and cultural exploration on my long-awaited first trip to the west coast. The truth is, I was lucky to be graduating at all: my early high school years were a journey through the ‘dark night… {Read More}
The Art of Talking Sexy
Talking sexy is different than talking dirty. And I am fortunate to bear witness several months ago to the art of “talking sexy” being practiced with skill and love.
While I was on my book tour for Shameless, and I spent the weekend with a couple who has been in relationship for 17 years. We are sitting in the living room chatting about summer plans when my host Al, comes out with how he is… {Read More}
Show Me The Ropes
My personal path in life and love has been decidedly unconventional. Beginning with a handful of largely unsatisfying initial forays into the realm of girls and sexual activity, I swung the other way after high school graduation: I chose voluntary celibacy for the rest of my teens, while living amongst a small community of healers, students and fellow spiritual seekers.
Somehow, notwithstanding all the hype about sex being “the best thing ever,” I found my… {Read More}
The Ultimate Role Model
“Is that a gun in your pocket or are you just happy to see me”. Mae West
Mae West was a woman ahead of her time. She knew the power of a woman’s sensuality and used it without shame or self-judgment. She was a woman who lived full out without concern about what anyone thought of her. In fact, I just learned that she wrote a play titled “Sex” in 1926 that landed her… {Read More}
Bring Back the Passion
Q: I love my husband very much but he seems to have lost his interest in me. This is painful and I don’t know how to handle it. How can I bring back the passion?
A: Passion waxes and wanes with most couples. To keep a relationship juicy, you must first keep yourself stimulated and happy. Are you doing things for yourself that make you interesting? Are you growing and learning new things? Are you… {Read More}



